1) That seems like a big problem. If that is true I can totally feel your rage. In central europe this works pretty good. This seems to be more of a problem of Treyarchs server distribution in the US.
2) I wasn't trying to offend you or anything. I just meant that being able to choose your opponent can also be abused for stat-whoring. Other than that this isn't something that couldn't be achieved with matchmaking. If they stop people from leaving/joining in-game sessions (there's a thread for that in General Discussion), you can choose your opponents in the pre-game lobby.
3) "choosing for yourself" would only work if we would get absolutely free control over servers. I doubt we would ever get that. Other than that, unless you rent a server yourself, you still have to play those modes that other people run on their servers. And in a lot of games (with server browsers) in the past it was hard to find a specific map/gamemode combo.
4) If matchmaking would only put you into pre-game lobbys with a map-vote feature, this wouldn't be a problem.
5) Yeah, waiting for IW/TA to fix something is like waiting for world peace
The most important things is, all those above points are not problems of matchmaking, but of IW/TA's lousy implementation of it. If they get it right, they could build up a decent system with dedi based matchmaking. It still wouldn't be proper dedis, but better than that previous ****.
- The lag issue can be fixed by providing better/enough servers
- no joining of open games would fix the "can't choose guys I'm playing with" thing
- proper filter options for matchmaking would make it easier to find games or specific map/gamemodes
As for proper dedis, there is still so much they could screw up. What makes you think they would actually add proper feautures to their dedis? IIRC BO1's server browser was pretty shitty. You couldn't properly select a server while the list was still refereshing. In a lot of other games, server browsers have crappty filter options, or are slow as ****. What if those servers have extremely limited gametype/gamemode options as well?
If they would do something like this however Dedicated servers done right - stupidly simple, we would all be happy.
TL;DR:
good proper dedis > good dedi based matchmaking > shitty proper dedis >>> shitty dedi based matchmaking >>>>> P2P matchmaking