Your having quite the conversation with yourself there Brian.
I'll tell BOTH of you what you can do so at least ONE of you understands...ok?
Let's begin.
1. Make sure you turn off all firewalls on your router.
Write down the model number of your router and you can enter it into google to find your online manual.
From there you can learn the basics of how to sign into your router and adjust settings.
2.Make sure UPNP is enabled.
You don't need to use port forwarding, DMZ or change your DNS server number.
Just use the default DNS server number your service provider give you.
Your router will use it automatically in most cases.
Having port forwarding/DMZ/UPNP all on at once will cause conflicts on your connection and you will have issues.
You only need one on at any give time.
UPNP is what currently works best for me.
3. For your PS3 go to network settings and choose the WIRED EASY setup.
Your PS3 will do the rest. Let it do the test and that is it.
4. ALWAYS use a wired Ethernet setup for online gaming.
Wifi is only useful for surfing the web. Not good for online gaming.
Here are my settings on my Netgear WNDR4500 Model router I got for $170 at Walmart.
DISABLE PORT SCAN AND DOS PROTECTION = ON
DEFAULT DMZ SERVER = OFF
RESPOND TO PING ON INTERNET PORT = ON
DISABLE IGMP PROXYING = OFF
MTU SIZE(IN BYTES) = 1500
NAT FILTERING - DISABLE SIP ALG = ON SECURED = OFF OPEN = ON
THAT MEANS BY FIREWALL IS OFF AND NOTHING IS STOPPING MY ONLINE CONNECTION FOR GAMING.
My modem is a Motorola surfboard extreme model SB6121. I got it for $100 at Walmart.
I also use a new CAT5e Ethernet cable (25 feet) I got for $20 at...you guessed it...Walmart lol.
I never lag on Ghosts or any other game anymore.